We were young, in love, and unstoppable.
Two ambitious entrepreneurs, chasing big dreams with passion and purpose. We believed we could conquer anything– and at first, it felt like we could.
We were a blended family from the beginning. I had a daughter, and with that came custody battles, co-parenting challenges, and learning how to build a safe and loving home while navigating legal systems and emotional landmines.
We were also self-employed– always on the go. I was traveling up to 15 days a month for work, while Tina held down the fort at home, managing the family, the business, and everything in between.
On top of that, we were raising three kids in one of the worst school districts in the nation– and doing everything we could to make sure they didn’t become a statistic.
But we didn’t start on easy mode.
And then, life hit us even harder.
Tina was diagnosed with cancer, and her recovery led to a season of crippling depression that knocked the wind out of our family. At the same time, the weight of it all — business stress, parenting stress, emotional exhaustion — started chipping away at our connection.
We were beat down, burned out, and by the time the 2008 market crash wiped us out financially, we were completely bankrupt– in every sense of the word.
And yet somehow, through all of that, we were still telling ourselves we were doing “okay”.
But we weren’t.
We were either sweeping things under the rug, or fighting tooth and nail over the same old issues — and never finding any real resolution. We tried counseling. More than once. SO MANY TIMES! But it always felt like temporary relief at best. Some therapists didn’t even have successful marriages of their own from which we could learn. No one ever gave us real, tangible tools to actually change how we showed up for each other and for our marriage.
So after 16 years, we reached our breaking point.
Divorce papers in one hand.
A list of “the stuff” we were going to split in the other.
That was it. Either something drastic had to change — or we were done.
So, what changed?
We made the choice to tear it all down and rebuild– from the inside out.
That meant doing the real work.
• We got radically honest about who we were — as individuals and as a couple.
• We learned how to communicate without blame — where no one was “wrong.”
• We took ownership of our words and actions. We became accountable, not defensive.
• We stopped living on separate islands, running separate agendas — and made the relationship the priority.
• We stopped keeping score... and started having fun again.
It wasn’t easy. It took commitment, vulnerability, and sometimes… a lot of tears.
But through it all, we did something we never thought possible:
We became unbreakable.
And today, after nearly 32 years of marriage, three incredible adult kids, and now 3 beautiful grandchildren– we can say, with full hearts and clear eyes:
We didn’t just survive. We transformed.
Now we help other couples do the same.
This isn’t just our story anymore.
We’ve taken these tools that we truly believe God helped us design, and we share them with other couples. And we’ve seen the breakthroughs happen again and again. The lightbulb moments. The tears of reconnection. The shift from survival mode to REAL partnership.
It’s a path. A framework.
A proven process that helps couples reconnect, rebuild, and rediscover what’s possible.
Because no matter how far apart you feel…
No matter how long it’s been hard…
You can become unbreakable too.
